My friend cuts and I want to help her stop I don't know what to do please help.
You are such a great friend for caring so much. This person is very lucky to have you in their life!!
I would suggest first talking to your friend yourself. Let them know how much you care, that you are always there for them, and you are very concerned. It is very important that they know that they are not alone in this, and that you will not judge them or look at them differently.
While you probably want to be there for them and make sure they know they can trust you, If anyone you know is causing harm to themselves, it is important that you tell a trusted adult what is going on.
It is so much better for your friend to be mad at you, than to not be around to even be mad at you.
TW: I used to cut back in high school, it's been about 4-5 years now and all the cuts on my wrist have healed and the scars faded away. My question is, is it stupid that I want to start cutting again because the first time around I didn't go deep enough for them to scar? I find cut scars to be so beautiful and inspiring. To me they're like battle scars, I want people to just be able to see my scars and know that I went through a tough time but that I'm alright now. Does this make me weird?
No. It does not make you weird.
It is completely normal to be attached to your scars and it is completely normal to be proud of yourself for overcoming a difficult time in your life.
Just remember that having more scars or more defined scars does not mean that for any reason, what you went through was harder or a bigger deal. You survived something that can be painful and extremely difficult to overcome, and just because it isn’t always evident just by looking at you, you will always be aware of how strong you are.
Let this be enough.
Please don’t hurt yourself further just for new scars. It sounds like a part of you is still attached to the thoughts of self harm. Cutting again will make it harder to give up in the future, and I can promise you, there will come a time when you will want your scars to fade.
hey so I havent cut or self-harmed since January of 2013 but I was at this event this past January, 2014, and there were these candles and I put my arm up to them intentionally kinda wanting to hurt myself again but I had had a lot to drink. I don't know if this technically counts as self harm or not. What do you think?
Anything done with the intention of causing harm to yourself is considered self harm.
Please be safe and take care of yourself and don’t ever be afraid to reach out to those around you if you are ever in need of help. There are so many people who care about you a whole lot and would not want to see you continue to hurt.